Do you know the true meaning of feminism? You may think you do, but Kadali Satyanarayana’s story will take you to facts that have been ignored and forgotten for ages. The true meaning of feminism has been buried under layers of fake feminism built over many years of male domination. While narrating instances from her life, Kadali points out how comfortably society is living in hypocrisy and teaching kids to do the same.

Most people are intimidated by the term feminism because they know only the fake version of it. They are miles away from the true meaning of feminism. Fake feminism is about women who are rebels, aggressive, agitated, angry, and unhappy. This is what makes men repulsive to the term and the people who believe in it. True feminism is way simpler. It simply promotes equality between men and women putting aside their biological differences.

Hypocrisy Around The World

Being subjected to many such discriminations from within and outside the family, Kadali realized society’s hypocrisy at a very young age. As a girl in class 10, when she received an anonymous love letter, she saw the first face of it. Her mother turned around and said Kadali must have encouraged the boy in some way that led to the love letter.

At this point, Kadali questioned how her mother or so many other mothers are bringing up their daughters. Their brought-up recipe is filled with fear of what society will say. Instead of creating an environment where a girl can come home and speak about her problems, they have created an environment where she is scared of being held responsible for what happened to her.

This fear is so intense that it transforms into guilt for being born as a girl, Kadali says. We are living at a time when women have to be guilty of who they are. This is clearly not a sign of a flourishing society.

Kadali first got a glimpse of gender restrictions in her 6th grade. She enjoyed playing with one of her neighbors, who was older than her and whom she referred to as Anna (brother). She would go many times a day to play with him. One day, her mother stopped her from going to that person.

She said girls shouldn’t interact with boys so much and should keep their distance. Kadali didn’t understand why two humans should not interact because their bodies are designed differently. A vagina and breasts subject a woman to endless restrictions without a valid reason.

A Long List of Restrictions For Girls

Something as simple as traveling is held against women depending on the time of the day. While dealing with the lack of knowledge of the true meaning of feminism, women also have to tolerate many restrictions. Kadali recalls having to travel because she wasn’t well, but her father stopped her because it was 7:30 in the evening and she was traveling with her male friend.

This was the rule even if staying back could have killed her. While female safety is important, people seem to have gotten the concept wrong. Instead of making the streets safe for women at all times, they are putting restrictions on them. Isn’t this the true face of hypocrisy?

Being a girl is not easy in this world. It’s not just the girl who is guilty of being who she is. Even her parents behave as if they’re inferior to the world for giving birth to a girl. This is another result of not knowing the meaning of true feminism. While parents want to protect their daughters from dishonor, they teach (sometimes even compel) them to be submissive. Kadali narrates an incident in her life that projects the inferiority of girls and their families.

She was in a relationship with a guy and both their families had accepted this. However, on many occasions, her former boyfriend would insist that she should wear traditional clothes whenever she visited his parents. When she didn’t agree, he complained to her father saying it will be difficult for her after marriage if she doesn’t learn to adjust. Being the typical father of a girl, Kadali’s dad tried to convince her to adjust. When she questioned her father as to why she should adjust, he simply said “because you’re a girl”. Once again, Kadali felt that her vagina and breasts prevented her from living a complete life.

Kadali Says No To Fake Feminism

The situation outside is not any better. Kadali noticed even in the larger society people were living under the influence of pseudo-feminism. She was a lecturer at a college. On the occasion of Women’s Day, they held some celebration, which Kadali felt was nothing like women empowerment. The stage was filled with men with a couple of women for namesake. Their portrayal of women in that function was nothing more than a daughter, a sister, a wife, and a mother.

Kadali couldn’t control her disappointment at such a poor portrayal of women. She went to the mike and showed the audience the true meaning of feminism. She said before being a daughter, a sister, a wife, and a mother a woman is as much human as a man and must be respected for that. She went on to say that a woman can even choose not to play all these roles. At this comment, not just men but women seemed surprised. Women have been playing these roles for so long that even the idea of rejecting them comes as a shock to them.

Kadali Satyanarayana says men and women are simply born with different body types. This does not give one the power to dominate, humiliate or hurt the other. While she knows that all men are not the same, she insists that everyone should unanimously promote the true meaning of feminism. Only then the fake one will die out.

We need more women like Kadali to bring out real feminism. Then, the world will definitely be a better place to live in.

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